*Great Post* My plan to become OUTCOME INDEPENDENT and DETACHED

[I'm adding this little note at the top after I've typed out this whole post. this might be one of my most valuable posts yet....it's a long one but definitely worth reading. i had some good revelations and epiphanies while typing all this shit out. i was a butthurt faggot today but i learned a valuable lesson. NOTE THAT ALL THIS ADVICE APPLIES TO EVERY AREA OF LIFE AND NOT JUST GAME...success, happiness, skill in whatever area, etc]

Let me start off with an email i received from simon:

"yo my bad I'm like ridiculously busy its insane. This past weekend was real good. Saturday night was fuckin killer. state was so ridiculous like Julien "I'm fucking God" state lol. at one point I stopped approaching because every chick was opening me wanting it so bad. NO JOKE.  Took home the bartender cuz she was smokin. Ive really taken my  shit to another level. Diet is insane and I started meditating. ** The meditation is so key. My game has skyrocketed since I started doing it. It really helps you stop caring about shit for real. My line of thought has changed a lot. Maybe I'm crazy. I'm literally starting to think I have superpowers. Like I just walk in a room and I think everyone is a piece of shit and I'm awesome. Everytime I go out and approach I litterally feel like I am making history and building up toward something great.

 

- Talk to you soon 

 

Simon"


i have been experiencing the same type of shit lately. i feel godlike in the venues and i feel like i can attract girls in extreme ways just by looking at them as i walk through the venue. i'd like to explore this "alpha radiation" phenomenon further. i've literally gotten instant makeouts just from the girl going "anime eyes" or "doggy-dinner bowl look" just from seeing me. there must be some sort of evolutionary thing going on in the mind of the tribal leader that he can blast value out in all directions completely through subtext and behavior. a lot of it is obviously in the eyes. the tractor beam icy eyes. anyways, this isn't the topic of this post...but glad to see that simon and i are at gangster pimp status and probably on the level (if not arguably HIGHER THAN) some of the RSD instructors and top PUA's out there. that seems like a bold statement but i know for a fact that i'm outpacing jeffy and he's one of the only ones dealing with large volumes and getting large amounts of lays. this doesn't necessarily make me better but i'm competing at that level. i hope to surpass ALL the RSD instructors within the next 3-5 years.

on to the other part of simon's email -- indifference. Simon says (haha, "simon says")  "The meditation is so key. My game has skyrocketed since I started doing it. It really helps you stop caring about shit for real."

I talked to Simon on the phone tonight and he says that he just sits in silence for 20 minutes a day and tries to think about nothing. He recommends watching the Tyler video about meditation. He says that it didn't start working (actually being able to think about nothing or any mindsets changing) until after about 5 days of this. So meditation is going to be a new big part of my plan towards indifference.

Now, let me provide a quote from Jeffy in his response to one of my posts:
"You are relatively new at this even with the high numbers, and so you still have that twinge of outcome dependence. Hitting up all these girls is very emotionally taxing, to be honest it HAS TO BE in a sense if you want to be effective, because the game is ALL ABOUT EMOTIONS. So in each interaction I feel things very deeply... when it doesn't work out, I'm upset. But I've also developed the ability to DROP SHIT LIKE A HOT ROCK IN A SECOND and I GET OVER IT EXTREMELY QUICKLY. So, yes, in the moment I'm right there totally emotionally present, but the SECOND I feel she's not gonna be compliant she's done. Eliminated. This is the true beauty of working volume... true abundance and thus complete outcome independence. Of course as we all know this has the somewhat paradoxical effect of causing the girls to become more attracted... not giving a fuck subcommunicates options which suggests pre selection high value yadda yadda yadda."

This is beautiful advice. Reread this Jeffy quote a few more times. Volume gives you a constant source of new girls. A constant source of new girls allows you to drop non-compliant girls. Dropping them and NOT CARING and NOT GIVING A FUCK leads to subcommunicating value and options. So bottom line -- INDIFFERENCE CULTIVATES ABUNDANCE, VALUE, SUCCESS, ETC. What did I do today when I was deflated? I started going into my ballistic OCD text frenzy and was sending multiple texts to girls if they weren't replying, i was being pushy for meetups, i was coming from a needy and scarcity frame, etc. And how did the girls respond? HORRIBLY. I was subcommunicating NO OPTIONS even though I have plenty. I was making things a BIG DEAL. I was trying to FORCE THINGS to work. I was essentially what they call in the poker world, "on tilt". When a player loses a hand --especially one worth a lot of money (like this 9.5 18 yr old that i invested a lot of time/effort into), it can cause the emotions to be frazzled. This causes the player to try and force things to happen, to DEVIATE from the correct course of action, to play BADLY, and to LOSE MONEY. A big part of being a master expert poker player is to be able to deal with beats (loss) and "bad beats" (loss where you had a good chance of winning). Let's say that you have an 80% chance of winning a hand. You play it skillfully and you end up losing. That doesn't mean you did something wrong. A lot of times in this situation the player has the view that if only he could have gone back in time he wouldn't have made that bet because then he wouldn't have lost all that money. THIS IS ERRONEOUS THINKING. 4 out of 5 times that bet will be profitable. 4 out of 5 times he will WIN LOTS OF MONEY. When I texted Tyler Durden (Owen Cook) that I was crushing it, he said this in reply:
"SICK! it will come and go. dont get attached. just follow processes most likely to work and let it happen OR NOT -- either way is fine. it builds and builds over many years"

Reread that a few times now. "Let is happen OR NOT -- either way is fine"....aka let results just happen and don't get upset. "Just follow processes most likely to work" aka make the play that will get you results 4 out of 5 times. If you're playing bad poker or running bad game, then fix that...but DONT GET ATTACHED AND UPSET. Loss and mistakes need to be looked at in a POSITIVE and INDIFFERENT way. This brings me to my next point...

The game should be looked at as a role-playing game (RPG). In an RPG, you start off at level 0. That is, NO EXPERIENCE POINTS AND NO SKILLS. as you go out and battle monsters and foes, you level up. if you go off into an advanced world where there are level 20 monsters and you're only at level 3..you get crushed. this is equivalent in the pickup world of going after stunners and getting blown out. newbies or some of the young PUAs around here ask me "magic bullet" type questions that are essentially asking me, how can i fuck close hot girls like you do, how can i pull like you do, how can i persist and get success like you do, etc. with this RPG analogy, this is equivalent to asking, "how can i jump from level 3 to level 20". YOU CANT. PERIOD. guess what? JEFFY USED TO SUCK. WORSE THAN ALMOST EVERYONE HE CLAIMS. so did tyler. so did todd. ETC. THATS HOW IT FUCKING GOES. Jeffy didn't wake up one day and go slay a level 100 monster. he fucking grinded it out and let his brain form heuristics. but this journey is what makes the game so fucking fun. if you could go and slay level 100 monsters with no effort and no time invested what would be the fucking point of playing. those level 100 monsters are so desirable to be defeated (and 10's so desirable to be fucked) because MOST PLAYERS CANT DEFEAT THEM and MOST DUDES CANT FUCK 10's. yes, 10's also are just fucking great for our attraction circuits...and yes i would have liked to just fuck 10's all the time up front without putting in the experience...lol....BUT it doesn't work this way...so you have to fucking PLAY THE GAME.

Now....looking at it from the point of view of the RPG analogy, let's say you play the RPG game all week and get your ass whooped by tons of monsters. THIS IS ACTUALLY A GOOD THING. let's say you start off on level 3 and by the end of the week you are on level 5. if you had NOT PLAYED AT ALL, you'd still be on level 3. so, losing was GOOD and will lead to future SUCCESS. i don't regularly land 8's, 9's and 10's by winning 100% of the time i've been involved in game. i often think nowadays that i had to go through a LOT OF FUCKING DEFEAT and HARDSHIP to be able to land these hotties so easily. lots of girls i fuck these days are cheerleaders, models, hired guns (bartenders, shot girls, strippers..girls hired for their beauty), promo girls, etc. The CREAM of the FUCKING CROP. i'm going out with a blonde model on wednesday night who is actually really intellectual. when i was a CHODE with NO GAME, i HAD EFFECTIVELY NO CHANCE WHATSOEVER of attracting these girls, keeping their attention, having them chase me, etc. LET ALONE HAVING THEM WANT TO FUCK ME!!!!! so let's look at why lots of guys fail. they start at level 1 or 2 and maybe try to take down someone way out of their league or do something way out of their current skill level. the stunner rejects them and they get butthurt and act like a fag and they are negatively reinforced to not try that move again. getting blown out, rejected, flaked on, etc FUCKING BLOWS but that's the ONLY WAY you can become a FUCKING GANGSTER PIMP. and anything that's awesome and worth having requires a lot of work and effort. i LOVE picking up girls and playing the game. tyler says to focus on the JOURNEY. here are his wise words again:
"it will come and go. dont get attached. just follow processes most likely to work and let it happen OR NOT -- either way is fine. it builds and builds over many years"

so if a player in an RPG game gets his ass whooped all week, he should be fucking happy. he is leveling up and going through a rite of passage to fucking DESTROY later on. and he is going to get big wins too. processes "most likely to work" in the RPG world would be equivalent to strategy guides or talking with other players or something. the point is -- every piece of game practiced is a SUCCESS. did you go out? yes? THEN YOU FUCKING GOT BETTER. there's way too many nights that i am at a diner or back home with some fellow PUA's and i'm thinking...SON OF A FUCKING BITCH...why are there guys with no game fucking hotties right now and we're all sitting here like a bunch of fucking chode losers. THIS IS RETARDED THINKING. what non-PUA's are doing 1% of the cool shit i'm doing every fucking week in field, on dates, through text, in my bed, etc. No top poker pro gets 1st place or in the top 10 finish EVERY FUCKING TIME. does this make him a fag? does this make him a bad player? no, he's STILL A FUCKING BOSS. he's in full abundance with money and can crush it in the long-run. he doesn't care about THIS PARTICULAR TOURNAMENT or THIS PARTICULAR MONTH of success. similarly, the PUA shouldn't EVER care about a PARTICULAR NIGHT OUT or success/failure with a PARTICULAR GIRL or a PARTICULAR WEEK. Let's break down tyler's wisdom:
IT WILL COME AND IT WILL GO = YOU WILL WIN AND YOU WILL LOSE.
DON'T GET ATTACHED = NEVER GIVE A FUCK ABOUT OUTCOME
FOLLOW PROCESSES MOST LIKELY TO WORK = RUN SOLID GAME (this is accomplished through RSD nation, experience, videos, talking with other PUA's, etc)
LET IT HAPPEN OR NOT -- EITHER WAY IS FINE = IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU WIN OR LOSE. YOU ARE PLAYING A GAME AND BUILDING EXP POINTS JUST LIKE IN AN RPG GAME. WINNING A BATTLE OR LOSING A BATTLE BOTH BUILD EXP POINTS AND TURN YOU INTO A TOTAL FUCKING GANGSTER PIMP ICY BEAST MASTER (LOL).
IT BUILDS AND BUILDS OVER MANY YEARS = YOU GAIN EXP POINTS AND LEVEL UP AS THE MONTHS AND YEARS GO BY. THIS MEANS THAT YOU FUCK HOTTER AND HOTTER GIRLS AND FUCK GIRLS MORE FREQUENTLY. IT MEANS THAT YOU PACK MORE POWER IN SET. IT MEANS THAT YOU GET MORE MAKEOUTS. IT MEANS THAT YOU GET MORE PULLS AND THAT YOUR ABILITY TO PULL GETS WAY BETTER. IT MEANS THAT YOU HOOK SETS QUICKER AND MORE SOLIDLY. IT MEANS THAT YOU GET LESS FLAKES. IT MEANS THAT YOU DO CRAZIER SHIT LIKE HAVE THREESOMES AND FUCK GIRLS WHILE PRETENDING TO BE GAY (BOOM). IT MEANS THAT YOU START TO MICRO-CALIBRATE LIKE AN AUTOMATIC MACHINE. IT MEANS THAT YOU BECOME MORE AND MORE SELF-AMUSING. IT MEANS THAT YOU BECOME LESS REACTIVE AND SEEK LESS REACTION. IT MEANS THAT YOU CAN DEAL WITH OBSTACLES AND INTERRUPTS BETTER. IT MEANS THAT YOU CAN HANDLE LOGISTICS AND OBJECTIONS BETTER. IT MEANS THAT YOU GET A BIGGER AND HOTTER ROTATION OF FUCK BUDDIES. IT MEANS THAT YOU BECOME HIGHER VALUE. IT MEANS THAT YOU RADIANT MORE OF THAT GOLDEN ALPHA ENERGY. IT MEANS THAT YOU GET HAPPIER. IT MEANS THAT YOU GET MORE INVESTMENT AND COMPLIANCE. AND ON AND ON!!!!!!!

So, to recap:
1. Medidate 20 minutes a day (Simon)
2. DO NOT GIVE A FUCK. Develop the ability to DROP SHIT LIKE A HOT ROCK IN A SECOND as SOON AS YOU FEEL SHE WON'T BE COMPLIANT and GET OVER IT EXTREMELY QUICKLY. This comes from having new leads always coming in and being in abundance. This paradoxically gets you girls because of subcommunicating options/preselection/hig value. (Jeffy)
3. View game as building of EXP points -- therefore you are always WINNING even when you are "lose" a particular girl, get blown out, get rejected, don't pull on a given night, fuck up for a whole week, or whatever. WHO CARES. you are LEVELING UP to BECOME A MASTER.

So what else? Tyler and Jeffy recommend reading Bhagavad Gita to cultivate an indifferent attitude. From my Jeffy Show 1 notes, this is what this book teaches you:

"how can you eliminate this attachment. What it comes down to is grasping your inner uniqueness. You have a self that is not subject to change. You become immune to change. Unfearful of challenge…you’re not better or worse than anyone.

You want to become a unique fixed point in the universe which is independent of success or failure. It’s not swayed by your emotions or external events. That’s what you want to strive for."

I also want to read another book Tyler recommended to me on bootcamp: The Talent Code. This book covers the following (from a review on amazon):

1) Deep practice. Practice is important to world-class performance. I guess everyone knew that already, huh? Well, sometimes, it doesn't hurt to remind everyone of the obvious. What might be a little more helpful is the understanding of "how" to practice. What constitutes "deep practice"? This is the kind of practice that separates the great from the not-so-great.

The understanding of "deep practice" involves an understanding of a substance called "myelin". Myelin is the insulation that wraps around nerve fibers. According to Coyle, myelin turns out to be a very big deal in the development of skill. Myelin is increased through deep practice and, in turn, increased myelin affects the signal strength, speed and accuracy of the electric signals traveling through nerve fibers. This increase of myelin and its effect on neurons has more to do with skill development than had previously been realized.

2) Ignition. If a person is going to invest the amount of time and passion and concentrated, difficult practice that produces high-level skill, that person will have to be deeply motivated. This is the aspect of skill development that Coyle refers to as "ignition". Coyle writes, "Where deep practice is a cool, conscious act, ignition is a hot, mysterious burst, an awakening." This deep passion is a necessary part of the attainment of great skill.

3) Master coaching. World class talent requires help and feedback and guidance from disciplined, committed, coaches. Think of this as the wise, older sage who can tell the student what he can't tell himself. The development of great skill seems to require the help of people who have the ability to grow talent in others.

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I have done a lot of reading on health and biology and know a bunch about myelin. if myelin is a "very big deal in development of skill" then we should be doing things to increase our myelin. doing a google search about how to build myelin revealed this interesting post.

I am a huge fan of supplements and it looks like there is a regimen aimed at building myelin. i will write another post about that in the next week or so after i've done more research. i am going to actively take supplements to grow myelin and therefore increase my rate of skill development. it's interesting to note that on that post it says that juggling increases myelin. i was in a juggling club for 2 years and used to practice it 4 hours a day. i would recommend that as a hobby for aspiring PUAs who are reading this blog (SERIOUSLY lol). i had read that juggling is terrific for building brain power. i can juggle 3, 4, and 5 balls as well as juggle clubs and do tons of tricks. i did it for 2 hours 2 nights a week. they told me it'd take a year minimum to learn how to juggle 5 balls. i learned it in 2 months. i challenge someone to try and beat that. 

i just ordered "Talent Code" but it looks like the formula is to practice in the "right way" (deep practice) through applying what Tyler called "best practices", have a DRIVE and be DEEPLY MOTIVATED (the ignition component), and have master coaching -- RSD instructors, vids, forums, and let's not forget yours truly lol ;) oh and build myelin through juggling and taking a bunch of supplements. fuck ya.

ok that's all for now. i go on travel thursday for 3.5 weeks. i get to watch my best friend drop out of the game permanently to get married this weekend. he's very happy so i'm very happy for him. i've unfortunately gotten too good at the game to ever get married. it's like being too smart and thinking too much about religion and never being able to believe in god again. player for life. while on travel, i'm going to be reading bhagavad gita, talent code, researching myelin supplementation, meditating, training myself to not give a fuck due to constant leads coming in (and not wanting non-compliant girls anyways), and training myself to see the game as an RPG experience builder with leveling up. 

i hope to be VASTLY more indifferent and outcome independent upon my return. if this problem still exists in a couple months i will seek out additional resources (probably from eastern philosophy) to fix it. this will help another major area of my life -- my OCD and obsessive dwelling on negative shit. those of you who know me know that one bad thing happening to me or something going wrong can FUCK UP my whole day or night or whatever. i'll repeat the same thing to people 100 times kind of in disbelief and extreme regret to the point of annoying others and myself. for those of you who i've annoyed with this type of repetitive talk, imagine how it is in my head. meditation and attitude adjustment should do wonders to help me here. i have a lot going for myself and there's no reason to get bogged down in all the negativity. by attaching my emotions to outcome, i basically give up control of my happiness and positive state. it is like tossing your emotions onto a long, expansive rollercoaster. ups and downs out of nowhere. blown state, shitty mood, etc. i'd like to put an end to all that shit. i'd like to be at the diner smiling with my EXP gain even if i was told to fuck off 50 times. i'd like to be able to close my eyes and return to a place of inner calm and peace. that sounds totally fucking gay but i'm curious what that's like. after all, events are not intrinsically GOOD or BAD or HAPPY or SAD....it's all about our INTERPRETATION of them. i don't want to be numb, i just want to treat bad things that happen to me like Tyler does....his analogy during bootcamp was that if he saw a cockroach on the street, he acknowledges that it's there but he just thinks, whatever...who fucking cares. an unpleasant thing can be ignored and leave the individual unaffected.

fuck ya. awesome post. bedtime. hope this helps a lot of you. helped me a lot to write it. feel free to leave some fucking comments as i know a bunch of you are reading this shit and not commenting. i'm devoting a bunch of time to this so feel free to jump in on the discussion. that goes for any post.

rock 'n roll.