What makes a girl want to see you again after initially meeting you?
1. Connection
2. Emotions
3. Memories
4. Investment
5. Some other miscellaneous things
What happens as TIME PASSES after the initial meeting?
All of these things ERODE and DETERIORATE as a function of time
On a weekly basis, I deal with this problem:
1. I meet a girl and have a really solid interaction with her
2. I send her a text the night I meet her and I get a really positive response (smileys, exclamation points, flirting, etc)
3. I'll text the next day and get a really positive response again
4. Then I do one of two things:
A. On the day after the initial meet, I try to set up the date in advance.
OR
B. I wait until the day I want to go out on a date with them and I try to set it up for that night.
The problem with (A) is that sometimes my schedule or her schedule doesn't permit seeing her for a few days, maybe more. As the days pass, connection/emotions/memories/investment are fading. I feel like the probability of her going through with the meetup is rapidly falling as time passes. After 3-4 days of no contact, the odds seem to be pretty low that she'll meet up.
A similar problem happens with (B) if I have other dates and things going on for 3, 4, 5 days or longer after I met her. Therefore she isn't contacted by me for many days after I've met her and then even though she was very interested at first, things fizzle.
I need recommendations and strategies for keeping girls warm, keep emotions pumped, etc. What's even more frustrating is once they get flaky or cold it's very easy for them to be gone for good shortly after. This causes a bunch of girls to drop through the cracks each week. These were girls that were really "on", solid sets, down to meet up, very interested, etc. The mere passage of time is really fucking shit up for me a lot. It is very frustrating to realize that if I had been able to see them sooner after meeting them that I would have been able to get things going. As some examples, numbers I collect on Wednesday or Thursday I usually don't try for a date til early the next week. By that time, we've both met tons of new people and had new experiences. I don't like wasting good closes just because time passed. I need a text sequence or strategy with using the phone.
My friend Bill has recommended The Ultimate Guide to Phone and Text Game by Braddock of Love Systems. Bill said you shouldn't let more than 2 days pass before contacting a girl again. He says they also talk in the Braddock guide about "emotional momentum" which sounds like not letting the positive interaction fade out. I told him that I sometimes wait 3-4 days before contacting them again and he said that can be like starting from scratch.
I am going to really focus on solving this problem and will post results of what I find. I would prefer and algorithmic solution about a series of texts I can send every couple days until the meet happens. Again, I would need a program or some aid to help me keep it straight with all the girls. I just hate feeling like the passage of time is destroying lots of good opportunities for me.
All feedback welcome.
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