Fuck closed #129 and had a few solid closes

Joint bday party out for me and Rob's bday. got locked into a set for a while but made it real solid. had another pretty solid set. both will almost surely turn into day 2's. madeout with a chick, pulled her and banged her. closed a couple others but not too many details to report as i was locked into one set for a lot of the time.

FIELD REPORT: 11 numbers, 3 makeouts, and a pull. Fucking BEASTED it tonight on a Thursday.

I'm currently on a work meeting bored as fuck on about 2.5 hours of sleep. I need to chronicle my adventures from last night. It was epic. I am getting really fucking good. So I was supposed to have a day 2 last night. I ended up getting a call scheduled with China from 9 pm - midnight. Since this meeting was scheduled, I cancelled my day 2. I have to go out shortly so here's the summarized details:

# close 1: hired gun bartender/shot girl. She was pouring shots into dudes' mouths. i motioned for her to come down. the first few times i motioned for her to come down she poured shots in my mouth lol. the fourth time i motioned that i wanted to talk to her and refused the shot. i was able to say something to her real quick...that i wanted her to talk to me when she was done up there about being a shot girl for one of my parties. this is a trick i commonly use on hired guns when they don't have much time to talk to you due to job responsibilities and shit. # closed her when she came down and said we'll hang out soon to talk details.

# close 2: this was a little hottie wearing an all-leather outfit. a little bit into the set she said that she had a boyfriend but that she could still dance with me. she was giving a lot of IOI's and jamming her crotch into my dick. it seemed pretty on so i asked for her #. she said she doesn't give her # out. i said that i don't give mine out either so we had a problem. i tried a bunch of other techniques to get her # but she wouldn't give it. so i took her phone and put my # in and then i called my # from her phone while pretending to not remember the last digit of my phone number (i lied and said i had just gotten a new #). this was just to cause a delay so she wouldn't steal her phone back and catch on to what i was doing. as soon i felt it ring i ended the call and gave her phone back. she texted back later that night that she still has a boyfriend "lol" and i told her that it's ok because i have a gf and we can still be best buddies. gonna try and get a meetup with this cutie.

#close 3: ian and i were about to leave the first bar we were at but there was this really hot girl in a cindarella outfit. i hadn't gotten a chance to open her and she was sitting by herself in a booth while we were walking out. i talked to her for like 2 minutes and got anime eyes and got into passionate making out then # close. turns out shes only in town for a couple days and is visiting from new hampshire. she said to meet her out on saturday night (night before she goes back home) at the roxxy which is a club about half a block from my house. unfortunately i'll be out for mine and rob's birthday celebration on saturday night.

#close 4: we quickly went to the bar next store before going to the main club we were supposed to go to. i # closed a cute girl in a little red riding hood outfit. she works at a shoe store and we joked about how my shoes were falling apart. she was texting me all day today (the day after meeting her). pretty likely that i'll get a day 2 out of this one.

#close 5: we get to the main club and i came in on a hot blonde who i # closed and who agreed to come back to my place after the club so she could play with my dj equipment. shes an aspiring dj. i kept up banter with her all night on and off along with dancing but i think she saw me close other girls. despite that, she still wanted to come back at the end of the night but her friend wasn't really feeling ian and she was even saying at 3:30 am that she was going to come back but it ultimately fell through. this probably has decent odds of another meetup.

#close 6: hot little dancer that had been dancing on a platform. i did the whole marriage roleplay with this chick and was lifting her up and spinning her and shit. we have a day 2 set for tuesday night. she was texting me to come back after i had walked away from her in the venue. she was giving me tons of interest. turns out she has a kid. but she has awesome cleavage and a rocking body. girls with kids are usually pretty dtf because they don't get to go out much or have much of a life. i know this from experience. she saw me dancing with #7 girl and she got all jealous and i told her that girl was just a promoter for my shows. got a little making out in here.

# close 7: this chick was friends with this hot blonde ian knew. i just led real hard and started making out intensely with her. was going around dancing with her and shit. i semi-blew this out after a bunch of making out and dancing by saying a daring line: "i bet you're a wild fuck" or something like that. this caused her to eject and go find her friends. i found her later but i might have fucked that one up by saying a reaction-seeking line. it's awesome that i can see exactly where i go wrong when i go wrong now. i will try to salvage this but we'll see.

# close 8: this chick had a fat friend that i had ian reluctantly block. she was a blonde with a cheetah bra hanging out. we were dancing and having fun then she ran into an ex or a dude she's involved with or something and he grabbed her and stole her away. it def wasn't her bf. she texted me throughout the night later on so i think it's still all good for a meetup.

# close 9: super super hot blonde that normally i would have been way too intimidated to approach. close to a 10. i had a lot of momentum and alpha built at this point of the night. i grabbed onto her tight midsection and she loved it. she texted back a bunch last night and i was saying intent statements. she said she owns a company. she said she doesn't have much free time since shes busy with the dancing company blah blah. i told her that i'd ease her stress and make her forget all about that shit ;) she was like, i'm sure you could!! ;) this would be an epic fuck

#close 10: this was an advanced move. this girl was in the back of the VIP. i opened some random 8 and had her go get the near-10 from the back wall and bring her to the front of the VIP since i couldn't get into the VIP. i told the girl i wanted to hire her to dance at one of my events and she said shes not a dancer. i told her i wanted to see her next week anyways. it was a short set and i # closed but we'll see what happens.

# close 11: since the original blonde in the white shirt that wanted to come play with my dj shit didn't come through, ian and i were grasping at straws outside the club. there was one really cute girl and i just owned the interaction and got her, her female friend, and a male friend to pull back to my house. i isolated her to my roofdeck and tried to kiss her but she refused. she's texting me today though and she's super into cognitive science. she said she'd go out with me on wednesday.

all in all a stellar fucking night and tons of adventure. i love just owning the clubs. leading different girls around by the hand. arms around 2 girls at once. # closing near-10's. having multiple pull opportunities and makeouts, etc. and to think i almost went on a day 2 with an 8 instead. ok i'm out.

Fuck closed #128 using hard sexual intent

This was a social experiment with my approach to this girl. I came in hard. This douchebag kid I know introduced me to this girl (he had just met her) at a club on Saturday. I opened with, "Hey, when are we having sex!?" It was said from a very amusing frame. She laughed and I followed up with, "I hope you're good at sex, are you?" She laughed again and replied, "Of course, look at this body" (she's a hot blonde). I then asked her what she was doing Wednesday and if she liked Margheritas (set up logistics). I didn't say a whole lot else to her besides tool out the douchebag I knew and tell her that he's a loser. She said she can tell he is and doesn't know why she was talking to him. It was just hardcore, I'm the man, I'm going to fuck you frame. Number closed, followed up with a text that night...shot her a couple more flirty texts (congruence) before the date and then had an awesome day 2. I did a lot of role-playing and conspiracy on the date and peppered in plenty of intent statements. When we got back I got zero opposition to fucking as it was on and understood from the beginning. I fucked her twice and got head twice and we watched porn together. She's pretty smart and a really cool chick. We laughed our asses off all night. She's sleeping in my bed right now (staying the night). I asked her why she responded to me talking to her like that up front since she doesn't seem slutty and she said because it was the most interesting interaction she's ever had and she knew I was completely joking. Subcommunication. Boom. She's definitely going into the rotation.

I also brought my old 9.5 back into the rotation last night. She called me up last night suicidal. I drove over there and fucked her brains out til 7 am even though she knows I'm seeing tons of girls. But that's a story for a different post.

Definitely going to experiment more with the super over the top self-amusing statements of intent in the future. I feel like it can make the set either really on or blown out really quick but it doesn't let them sit on the fence.

Fuck closed #125, 126, 127 in Beijing with girls that don't speak English

So I've been in Beijing this past week for work travel. My subcommunication has really been put to the test since most of the girls don't speak English. I fucked 2 dimes and an 8 using NO WORDS. I also only went out ONE NIGHT (hit 2 clubs on a Saturday)

1. On this night out, I rolled up on a dime and just acted like the man. During bootcamp we had exercises where we couldn't speak for the first minute of the set. Try not speaking for ANY of the set. With someone who speaks English this could come across as weird if you NEVER said anything but it was acceptable in this case. Either way, I highly recommend running some sets with no words and seeing how receptive the girls are. It also allowed me to fine tune my subcommunication (which is already stellar) even further. It's like how since deaf people can't hear, they're more attune to the other shit going on with their other senses. So i start dancing with this chick and giving her the icy eyes and just being the man. I number closed 8 girls this night...all with no words. I would just make a gesture with my thumb like typing into an imaginary phone and I would take out a pen and paper. Keep in mind that in China, (and this is according to my colleagues who live here), girls rarely have one night stands or date multiple guys, or do random hookups. They're all about boyfriend/girlfriend bullshit. So i had the deck stacked against me. One of the girls spoke poor English that was in the group with the dime. I set up logistics with her. I showed her my hotel card and typed drinks out on her phone and pointed at her dime friend. the girl typed back that her friend wants to come with me but that she is afraid because she doesn't know me. that's another chinese thing...they like to travel in groups when seeing a guy that is a stranger for safety reasons. i said fuck it and let them all come along. i won over the whole group with different fun body language and being silly/ridiculous (self-amusing). like i would get in pictures with them and make funny faces and do stupid dancing and whatever the fuck i wanted.

i makeout with the dime in the car while her sister sits right next to her hahah. we get back to the hotel room, i isolate the dime to the bathroom and fuck her brains out while the friends wait in the other room. i had my chinese colleague arrange a "send off" for me with this chick tomorrow morning (wednesday morning, beijing is 12 hours ahead of US eastern time). the girl had wanted to meet in public but i had him lie to her over text and tell her that i have to go straight from hotel to airport and for her to come to hotel in the morning...she agreed. she also gave me a sweet chinese necklace lol.


2. now for the 8. this girl was working at a shop. i just eye fucked her a bunch and did a lot of body language flirting. then i bit my lip and pointed at her and then me. basically saying, i want to fuck you without saying jack shit. then i held my hands out like, what do you say. she gave some token resistance (non-verbal) and i kept up persistence and building compliance. when i got her to agree i gave her a paper with my hotel address on it and wrote down my room number. i pointed at my watch and made a motion like when are you done. she said 2 am. i pointed at the 2 on my watch then pointed to the hotel address then raised my eyebrows and nodded (like, come here and fuck me when you get off work). she nodded and smiled. and she came. and i fucked her.


3. this 3rd girl, the other dime.. i'm very proud of. this was actually a day 2 from one of the saturday night number closes. i had my chinese colleague arrange logistics. the girl wanted to meet halfway since she was a 40 minute cab ride away. i answered that objection by telling him to text her that i would get lost in the city since i dont know chinese and to meet at my hotel bar. she wanted to bring a friend since it was a long journey and she didn't know me. i agreed hoping my chinese colleague could block the obstacle AND help translate. turns out he had dinner plans with a friend. but i had the bitches come anyways. i get my laptop with fucking google translate pulled up so that i can communicate with these bitches at least for logistics. i wanted to be able to tell them to go back up to my room in a more finessed way than with pure body language. so the dime arrives SOLO which was sweet. never found out why the friend didn't come along. we go and sit in the hotel bar at a table which is kind of in open dispaly of all the other tables. the reason that's relevant is all these people were watching us have a conversation back and forth with my google translate and an app on her phone to translate chinese into english. the subcommunication was still ruling shit. the translated shit was just aiding in showing i was confident, unreactive, so i could bust on her a little, flirt, false disqualify a little, push/pull, etc. it was hilarious because it was like running online game even though she was sitting right in front of me. most of the shit she typed was super IOI. she kept telling me i have the best personality and am so interesting and handsome and blah blah blah. i told her she is the prettiest girl i have seen in beijing and she was so flattered but shy at the same time -- so i busted on her for being shy and told her shes so lucky to have met a handsome american man. one of her messages was "how you so confident!!!! :)" hahaha. nothing against the asian males, but it's probably safe to say in general they are being hardcore chodes..so these bitches aren't used to be dominated or led. i had had a picture taken during a tour of the forbidden city of me in emperor's clothes. this was my ticket back to my room. i told her i want her to see it because it is very funny.

once back in the room i told her i wanted to kiss her. she refused and typed out "chinese girls are not so open". this was her token resistance but also culturally ingrained. no match though for my ASD busting and LMR busting tactics. thank you game. her objections were basically that she would want to see me many more times before we kissed, that if she kissed me and i am leaving soon, that she will be let down, etc. i told her that i would take time to see her many more times but that i was leaving so we had no choice. i told her i understand she is a polite lady but she needs to make an exception and have an adventure! i told her she may never ge to see me again. She was still giving me all the body language cues that it was on so i persisted (like usual). i told her in america we have something called eskimo kissing and had her do that with me. that seemed to turn her on as her breathing got heavier. then i told her (via google translate) to look me in the eyes and tell me what she feels. she replied with her translate app that she felt i was handsome. i replied, tell me how you feel in your heart. i basically just got up in her face with ultra icy eyes, eye fucking the shit out of her to an extreme degree and watched her body move up and down as her breathing increased. then i went for the makeout and she got super into it. she went for my dick pretty quickly which was surprising. i'll spare all the details but i fucked her in every position that i could possibly think of and it was probably one of the top 5 best sex sessions i've ever had. she was a solid asian dimepiece. she's coming back tomorrow tonight because i leave tomorrow. then i have the 1st dime in the morning. i basically built a mini-rotation with stunners WITHOUT SPEAKING THE FUCKING LANGUAGE. granted, i used some text shit back and forth for the 2nd dime but that was mainly for logistics and busting through resistance and setting the man-woman frame and self-amusing and blah blah. most of the attraction was in my subcommunication.

The 2nd dime wants to come visit me in America now and wants me to come back to Beijing lol. She said her birthday is in a couple weeks and is sad that i cannot "accompany her". i'll probably skype with her and have her get naked and shit. i fuckin love my life.

She typed out towards the end, "i do not mean to be rude, but i need to go home to my puppy". lol. fuck. yes. 

NYC Bootcamp detailed report. Instructing with Jeffy from RSD.

What’s up mother fuckers. Coming at you from hour 11 of my 14 hour flight to Beijing. It’s been a long day. I get to do an hour of customs bullshit and then take an hour taxi ride from the airport to my hotel. Then once I get to the hotel I have to finalize all my shit for testing tomorrow. But enough about that. Let’s crack into what I’ve been up to.

I’ll start with what I’ve been doing on the plane and work backwards. I have read the first 3 chapters in “The Power of Now” and it’s fucking awesome. I have been taking some notes and will upload those as I get more through the book. There is some really good shit in there and I highly recommend it to anyone who hasn’t read it. It is definitely going to help me immensely in dealing with emotional pain, attachment to outcomes, my OCD, and the damage from a verbally abusive childhood. I’ll get more into that shit in a different post.

I want to break down what happened this past weekend and some revelations I had. I was able to get signed up last minute as Jeffy (Jlaix) instructor assistant. Jeffy is an RSD instructor who was in the book, The Game (which was my first exposure to game). I’ve had some forum exchanges and phone calls with him regarding working large volumes of bitches and how to cut to the chase quick and get solid numbers turned into day 2’s.

It was super sick to finally get to meet him, wing with him all weekend in NYC, and help instruct his bootcamp students. It was funny because when I first met him in person he didn’t realize I was the guy from the forums and the phone call and he was super abrasive to me. He was bitching about how he heard from Tyler that I had stolen a phone number over Tyler’s shoulder. Then he went off to change his shirt. Once I arrived at this random hotel lobby which was the meeting location for students, I texted Jeffy and he said he was on the way. I told him that I was the dude from the forum and phone conversations and he was like omg I had no idea I thought you were just some chode. He was real warm and receptive once he arrived and was laughing about he had just assumed I was some fag and that he was really happy to finally meet me. He said he had wondered what I was like in the field after reading about me on the forums and having that conversation. He remained abrasive to the students however…lol. I have a bunch of notes in my phone that I can’t currently turn on so I will put those in another post. I had some key revelations from things that he told students. The students by the way were only two total. One was from Australia just in NYC for the weekend. He was at 6 lays. I will refer to him as Aussie. The other dude (Jay) said he just turned 21 recently so he isn’t used to the bar/club scene. He had banged a few girls in his social circle but that was about it. So 2 instructors (me and Jeffy) and these 2 guys.

Here is the nights breakdown:

Thursday night: Arrive at the first venue which was an outdoor beer garden. Jeffy suggests that we all get drinks. I found this funny because RSD puts out videos about “The truth about alcohol” and saying how alcohol fucks shit up. However, I’ve always been a big fan of drinking and I love gaming with some drinks in me. I do very well and I drink nearly every time. Jeffy said he drinks almost every time too. He said all that truth about alcohol shit is bs. So that was nice to see that he was drinking. Another interesting thing that he pointed out was that at the beginning of the night, he DOES NOT FEEL LIKE APPROACHING and he said that Tyler feels the same way. A good analogy is that the pool is always cold when Michael Phelps first jumps in. That’s just how it is. Sometimes I would take that beginning of night approach anxiety/hesitance personally and let it disrupt my night further. Now I am going to take it as a token thing that even the masters feel and not take it seriously at all. Jeffy said that after he gets blown out a few times then he’s good to go. He was saying how the dynamic of the crowd is different at the beginning of the night too – he said that everyone is kind of getting into the social mood and things are a bit more tame. So we did a few warmup approaches at the beer garden then bounced over to a nearby bar. At this 2^nd place, I open a set with the Aussie and it goes real well. Turns out they are Irish. Number close and say we’ll meet up with them later. Upstairs there was a bachelorette party. Before approaching that, I had a different girl giving me the eyes. I open that get flirty and shit with her. She tells me that she thinks I’m super cute and is really into me and that it’s a shame she has a bf. I # close her anyways and push to get her to makeout with me and shit. She gets really close to doing it but ultimately doesn’t because her boss was at the club with her. So onto the bachelorette party..me and Aussie worked that whole group. Jeffy meanwhile gamed up some cutie and got some kissing in with her and was moving her around the venue. I gamed up most of the girls in the bachelorette party and was carrying the bachelorette around and shit. Number closed one of the chicks…anyways let me cut to the chase. Jeffy brings his girl up and hands her off to Aussie via introduction. Aussie has some good convo with her. Seems like it’s going really well but then he comes back over to me and Jeffy. We ask him wtf he’s doing and he said he didn’t know what to do next. We sent him back in and told him to go for the makeout. So he went back in and talked a bit more and seemed hesistant to do it. We gave him some signals and he ended up making out with her pretty heavy. Then he comes back over to us again. Again, we ask him wtf he’s doing. He says that the making out was fun and he wasn’t sure what to do next again. I tell him that he should go back up to her and tell her that he wants to go outside and get some fresh air. I said if the friends object to tell them that he’s just borrowing her for a minute. I told him if that if SHE objects just get her one step closer and one step closer to the cab. Then get her in the cab. And if she objects about the friends tell her it’ll be fine and just plow it. So I go in with him and put my 2 fists out to the 4 obstacles. This was an improve move but I had them all fist-pounding me. I would focus attention dynamically on whoever seemed most attentive and/or concerned about the one friend leaving with my friend. I would use the 2 seconds dynamic banter shit so I had them all occupied. It was kind of like that game whack a mole lol. Then I did some grandiose tonality/expressiveness/body language and said I had an awesome story for them..and I sat with the group. By this time Aussie was gone with the chick. Jeffy, Jay, and I ended up bouncing to a different latenight club around 2. Jeffy and I proceeded to rip a bunch of shots and pound some beers..we were having a blast. I # closed a hottie from Uruguay but then I met this cute Irish girl who was from Dublin and going back to Dublin on Saturday. Jeffy and I were competing for her but I had gone in first so I had most of the rapport and interest from her. I blew out Jeffy by winning over the target’s best friend and then having the best friend tell Jeffy that she approves of me and not Jeffy haha. My move to get a kiss from her was to say, “Have you kissed an American guy yet while you’ve been visiting from Ireland?” That didn’t work with her so I isolated her to the dancefloor which was right nearby we had been talking. On the dancefloor I just got all up close and personal and I think (can’t remember) that I asked her to Eskimo kiss me. This is a technique Jeffy taught us. It actually works really well because it’s a smaller hoop that going straight in for the kiss. After they do the Eskimo kiss you tell them that they need to do it more gently. So I started working logistics with this Irish bitch to get her back home. I framed it that we should go somewhere after we left the bar for “drinks”. She said she had girls staying in her hotel room so that wasn’t an option. I told her we could go have drinks in my hotel lobby and shit. She asks which hotel I’m staying at. I replied that we could go outside and find the nearest hotel and that set of ASD for her and almost fucked everything up. Admittedly it did sound like a real cheap thing to say lol but I was recovered by saying that I hadn’t booked a hotel yet and I was going to have to do that anyways…so I wasn’t just booking one for us. I don’t remember how I got her away from her friends cuz I was kinda drunk but we ended up leaving the bar with the intention of getting drinks at a hotel I could find. I’m sure she knew what was really going to go down. I’m pretty sure I used intent statements like, I want to have a spontaneous adventure tonight. Oh one other funny thin to mention is that some fag tried to give me pointers and act cool by being like “Jeffy is trying to steal your girl, what are you going to do about that?” I was like, who the fuck are you? He said he was an RSD intern. I asked his lay count. He said around 20. I told him I was at 122 and knew what the fuck I was doing and to shut the fuck up. He saw me pull too..hope he had fun jerking off that night. That’s another thing Jeffy did for me – instill this kind of no bullshit attitude directed out to be fired at chodes and AMOGS and not just bitches. So I’m walking around NYC at like 4 AM trying to find a hotel. We were just asking people on the street mainly. The first 2 that came upon were all booked up and I thought this was going to blow me out but she stuck around. I just kept bantering and we were holding hands. The 3^rd hotel was a Marriott and they had a couple rooms left. We got one on the top floor (I think 20^th floor) and bought a 6 pack from the bar to take to the room. I got jammed up for like $400 between the room and beers but fuck it…I had no better pulling option. I don’t usually have to spend anything on a pull but it was bootcamp and fuck it. I was staying with friends half hour away from that bar and I hadn’t even met up with them to ge the key yet…so that wouldn’t have worked out. I had 1 condom and she had 1 condom so I was able to fuck her twice at least. We fucked all night. The 2^nd time after fucking her in a bunch of positions I titty fucked her and busted on her face. Pounded a stella artois and bounced out of the room around 8 am. Called into a work meeting for IBM from my car at like 9 am. Ahh..i love the player life. This chick had a sexy irish accent too. What a sick time. I found out the next day that Aussie got the girl back to his hotel and they were hooking up in his bed and she ended up having a bush. He couldn’t get an erection after seeing she had a bush lol. So no fuck close for him. But I basically set everything up to happen and he made things happen so I’m proud of him. He ended up pulling and fuck closing an asian girl the 2^nd night which I will get into in the next story. So that was 2 pulls in the first 2 nights from a bootcamp student that I was winging/teaching. It was an awesome feeling to watch him transform. He was at 6 lays coming in so the 2 he should have gotten on bootcamp (the 1^st one didn’t go down cuz of bush) would have increased his laycount 33% lol. Sick progress. Ok I’m about to watch Pee-Wee’s great adventure because that shit is hilarious and I have about 1.5 hours left before touching down in Beijing.

Damn…so I was up for 36 hours straight since leaving Philly before I finally got to bed in Beijing. I had a bunch of shit to do for work right when I got in and had to fight off the exhaustion for 16 hours after landing before I could finally pass out for 2 hours then go conduct testing. I also found out that the government blocks foreign sites like blogspot.com so I’m going to have to post this massive bootcamp report once I’m back in the USA next week. China sucks right now cuz everyone talks with an annoying accent, there’s tons of stupid symbols around, I stick out like a sore thumb since I’m a 6’4 white dude, and I’m fucking exhausted. But, since my Chinese counterpart is currently administering the testing since I can’t read or speak fucking Mandarin, I have some time to blog it up. So…where did I leave off. Ah yes, the 2^nd night of bootcamp.

FRIDAY: Coming off Thursday night where me and Aussie both pulled, I was in good spirits and ready to do it all over again. This time the crew (me, Jeffy, and the 2 students) went to this big outdoor roofdeck bar/club with palm trees all over and amazing views of the city. We cracked right into it and were getting socially lubricated. Before going out, Jeffy expressed to the students that that night was all about getting physical and escalating. This meant fingers weaved amongst the girl’s fingers, holding out a hand and having her do a spin, doing a lift, doing a fake waltz dance, kissing, and doing a move with putting her hands around the back of your neck. There were some SUPER KEY POINTS MADE HERE BY JEFFY that I think are going to REVOLUTIONIZE MY GAME. Namely, he expressed that these moves were ESSENTIAL so that you didn’t communicate with the girl friend-friend but rather MAN-WOMAN. He said that if you haven’t kissed a girl in the first 30 minutes of an interaction that you’re probably just spinning your wheels. THIS WAS A HUGE REALIZATION FOR ME. It had been stressed on my bootcamp in Philadelphia that the #1 mistake guys make it failing to escalate. This also ties into PLAYING TO WIN rather than playing “not to lose” (aka playing it safe). The point is to not have girls ON THE FENCE about fucking you. They should either LOVE YOU or HATE YOU and it should be a CLEAR DECISION in their mind. Jeffy warned that if you communicated friend-friend and didn’t escalate that you’d end up with a lot of times with “have a nice night” or “well it was nice meeting you.” These types of interactions are going to lead to higher probability of the woman flaking. It also will be less “on” and if you DO happen to get the friend-friend interaction girl on the day 2, the escalation on the day 2 is going to seem like more of a shock or big deal to her because you have been too much of a pussy thus far to communicate the man-woman frame. Additionally, statements of intent made on the day 2 might seem over the top or creep since you have not cemented this frame. From your initial interaction, she’s used to you being reserved, playing it safe, being a faggot, etc. She’s on the fence. Then, when you get heavy with intent or escalation on the day 2 you can get blown out for reasons such as being “too aggressive” or “creepy”. Too aggressive more often times than not means you didn’t escalate soon enough so this big change contrasts in a relativistic way. Creepy can be a label given when you, this nice guy who had a nice little conversation with her at the club, starts dropping intent. Now it looks like you’re trying to get something sexual from her out of nowhere. INSTEAD, if only you had gradually built up the escalation in the INITIAL INTERACTION, the MAN-WOMAN SEXUAL FRAME WOULD BE CEMENTED. She’d either be into it (which is most likely the case) or she’d be blown out. If she blows out due to escalation, better to know now than later…plus WHO GIVES A FUCK. You want to put her to that decision. She’s all in or she’s folding. Don’t let her sit on the fence only to hop off in the wrong direction (flake) when you text her or hop off during the day 2 when your escalation and intent statements come off as aggressive and creepy. All this analysis I’ve provided is my own but I think it makes sense. The parts that came from Jeffy are that you want that Man-Woman frame and that you want to be kissing the girl within 30 minutes otherwise you’re spinning your wheels. The other important piece of what he said is that you’ll get a lot of nice to meet you’s and have a good night type statements. Drawing on my set of empirical data from all my interactions and times in field, I realize that escalating with the girl greatly reduces her chances of flaking. Also, it totally sets the tone for the day 2 and makes things very on. It also greatly raises your chances for pulling. Win win win win win…..I will get into shortly how I saw some sets completely turn around just by getting physical.

So, back to the night 2 recap. The first noteworthy set was when Aussie was in on this real cutie who was visiting her friend in NYC. Jeffy told me to go in and wing. We had had a bunch of sets before this one where I picked up some numbers and had good interactions but this one got kind of juicy. Aussie was going through the physical escalation steps and got his girl to have her arms around him. I made a gesture with my lips that he should kiss her and they finally started making out. All the while I was winging her friend who was also very cute. I was making my girl laugh but I realized after like 10-15 minutes that I was communicating friend-friend. Don’t get me wrong, I was being flirty, I was being entitled, I was being self-amusing, I was being non-reactive, etc etc etc….BUT I WASN’T ESCALATING. This is a super key point and is really going to beef up my game to the next level. It was just a bunch of banter back and forth that WAS NOT GOING ANYWHERE. I’ve had plenty of conversations like this in field and then I think – OK! TIME TO GET THE NUMBER! I’LL GET PHYSICAL LATER ON THE DAY 2…no need to RISK IT now!!! MIGHT AS WELL PLAY IT SAFE…WE HAD A NICE HALF HOUR (or however long) CONVERSATION!!! She’ll DEFINITELY want to see me again!!! The logic breaks down here because:

1)     this bitch got communicated as friend-friend and is now on the fence

2)     shes probably going to flake when I call because I’m JUST ANOTHER GUY SHE HAD A CONVERATION WITH THAT NIGHT

3)     I didn’t get anywhere close to pulling girls like this because there’s no steps towards sexuality. I can’t have a friend-friend conversation then all of the sudden bust out, oh hey! Let’s go chill at my place! The odds of compliance on that move are very small

4)     She has much less invested than if she had madeout with me and/or gotten physical with me in other ways

5)     If she DOES happen to come on the day 2, intent statements will sound creepy due to being too much of a relativistic leap and physical escalation is going to probably seem aggressive since it’s incongruent with the frame I cemented when I met her – AKA FRIEND – FRIEND. This can cause the day 2 to blow out and then leave the PUA feeling like he “missed an opportunity”. What he ACTUALLY missed were his fucking opportunities to escalate back during the initial interaction at the club or wherever. That is what chain-reacted the whole rest of the interaction into a pile of shit.

So bottom line: friend-friend communication is going to drop her compliance way down, keep her investment minimal, put her on the fence, increase her odds of flaking BOTH on your texts or blowing off the date, increase her odds of blowing out the day 2 if she actually comes on it, and in general NOT GETTING WHERE YOU WANT TO WITH HER – AKA FUCKING HER DAMN BRAINS OUT. Great great great fucking realization. New resolution: don’t be a pussy. Don’t play it safe. Fucking escalate and if she blows out she blows out. View escalation not only as a way to INCREASE ODDS OF PULLING, DECREASE ODDS OF FLAKING, MAKE THINGS MORE “ON”, and INCREASE CHANCES OF FUCKING….but also it can be viewed as a clever way to screen if the girl is going to be some prude cunt or if she is going to be dtf. That is, she’s OFF the fence…and PROBABLY ON YOUR SIDE if you’re gaming how you should be. But if she happens to hop off the fence NOT on your side, that’s ALSO GOOD. You now don’t have to deal with the annoyance of her flaking on your number, blowing off your date, being difficult and wasting your time on the day 2, etc. Don’t leave her fucking sitting up on that goddamn fence.

So, what did I do once I realized 10-15 minutes in that I was communicating friend-friend and wasn’t quite vibing good enough with the friend of the girl Aussie was making out with? I ESCALATED. Made her do a spin, locked my hands in hers, put her arms around the back of my neck, gave her the icy eyes, pulled her in close. I saw a DRAMATIC change in the way she was responding. Whereas before it was kind of forced answers and sometimes awkward moments, now she was beaming and clearly turned on. I was leading and I was unapologetically putting myself out there vulnerably. Take it or leave it bitch, I wanna fuck. I have a really good memory and I can distinctly remember a RADICAL change in her demeanor. Then I started peppering in the intent statements. Telling her I could tell she was naughty and wild, that I wanted to have an adventure that night, etc. I then used Jeffy’s Eskimo kiss line and started making out with her. Then I had her. Aussie and I both madeout with our girls for a while and we’d take breaks here and there to make jokes at the other couple like “hey are you guys coming to our wedding” and blah blah blah. I was doing extreme self-amusing role-play about how I was going to take my girl up to this big tower that we could see a bit aways and that’s where we’d live and blah blah blah. The girls were laughing and real turned on. I took pictures of them, they took pictures of us, etc. All the while, I saw Jeffy looking on with approval in the distance. Then we isolated the chicks over near this waterfall in a remote area of the club. I was VERY happy and SHOCKED by what a radical transformation occurred once I got physical. I could have kept up some stupid banter and eventually awkwardly said the “well it was nice to meet you” and prayed for the day 2 going down even though she probably would have flaked me hard. I would have been a fun, interesting guy who entertained her for the night but clearly was too much of a pussy to communicate man-woman and take charge and be dominant. So, during the isolation, we had the girls sit on our laps. We madeout with them a little more here and there. I realized we needed to get logistics set up for the pull. The one that was with Aussie was like, “so what are we all doing after this?” I replied that we’d be having an orgy since I was on the pattern of saying whatever I want – no filter – for the sake of self-amusement. This is actually the correct way to interact. My girl said she had to be up at 7 am and it was already about 3 am (clubs in NYC are open til 4 am). She was saying how she wanted to get into her pajamas and crawl into bed. I busted on her about how she’d probably wear a onesie and shit. The girls went off to conference about whether or not they wanted to come back with us. I told Aussie while they were gone that we needed to put them to a decision. There were other sets to be sarged and if they were going to fuck around then I thought we should probably ditch them. I told Aussie to go tell his girl that he’s only in town for one more day and that he wants her and to find out if it was going to go down or not. I should have told him not to be super direct because the girl got the impression that he was asking if they were fucking us tonight (which is actually what we wanted to know...but maybe we should have put it in nicer terms as to not set off ASD).

Either way, who gives a shit. We moved onto the next sets. Aussie ended up in a set with an asian chick. They were up close and personal for a while and he tried to pull her back to his hotel. She didn’t want to go there with him so Jeffy told him to pull her to a diner. He left with her after a while and the next day he said he fuck closed her. It’s funny because he said when he opened her that she told him he was creepy and weird. She also told him in the cab, “don’t expect anything to happen tonight”. She even said when she was on top of him in his bed that they weren’t going to have sex hahaha. This goes to show that persistence plows through token ASD shit. It also goes to show that when we felt we were spinning our wheels with the original two, it was a sweet move for us to go after new shit. Aussie ended up pulling and fucking the asian. I, on the other hand, got caught up with a hot little blonde girl from the south. She was only in NYC for the weekend. This was another one of those sets where I was mistakenly communicating friend-friend but turned it around by getting physical and cementing the man-woman frame. We were being real flirty and cracking jokes and shit. I went for the kiss close and she said that she doesn’t kiss in public. She was leaving soon because her friends were pushing for her to go. I told her that I wanted to see her after the bar. Her friends were being assholes to me so I acted unreactive and won then over. They just didn’t like northern guys in general but I busted on them for that and made them laugh. After she left I opened a two set of hot Canadians. I told them me and Jeffy were going to come to their house for an afterparty. The one said that would actually work because she was staying at her Mom’s really nice place and her Mom was out of town. Sounded pretty luxurious. Only problem was they had to be up at 6 to fly out of NYC. It was around 3:30 at this time. I told them to just pull an all nighter. They went off to the bathroom and I said I’d find them later. I opened a few more, one of whom had had an altercation with Jeffy and they exchanged harsh words haha. This girl was just a moving set walking by and I grabbed her hand and went with her to the bar. Girls will comply with pretty much anything as long as you are congruent and in state. Fat friend block on this one but was more interested in going after Canadians and the southern chick at that point. Around this time of the night, Aussie was gone, the other bootcamp dude was nowhere to be found, and Jeffy was getting tired. I went back in on the Canadians and they had guys in there at this point. They said that they weren’t going to be able to hang out because of the early flight blah blah. I didn’t push it because I was going to try with the southern chick. I went to the elevator to go downstairs and out front to meet Jeffy. As I was walking towards the elevator, I see 2 hotties getting in it. I hop in with them, put my arms around them both, tell them we’re going to their house for an afterparty…they AGREE, I say cool let me introduce you to my friend jeff out front. We go outside, my arms around both girls still, ready to walk to their house, and Jeffy puts his hand on one of the chicks. She says some bullshit like “hands off” or something and Jeffy instantly blew the set out hard. He was like, FUCK YOU CUNT or some stupid shit lol. He is pretty black and white with dealing with non-compliance. Like if a girl doesn’t fuck on the first date he’ll kick them out and not call them any more. I saw him lash out at chicks just for putting up token resistance or making a joke at his expense. He seemed somewhat jaded as I can only assume 20,000+ approaches and dealing with all the bullshit (even non-approach bullshit) these girls throw at you can do to someone over time. I was kinda pissed that he did that as the 2 girls had tight little dresses on and were drunk and down to hang out. I feel like he didn’t need to blow the whole thing up. So I texted southern bitch and she gave me her hotel address. Jeffy bounced. I get to southern chick’s place and she is texting me from her room that her friends won’t let her leave the hotel room (she was sharing her fucking room with friends…argh). She tells me that she is going to go to bed and that it was nice to meet me. Fuck that. I tell her to come down because I took a cab all the way over to see her. She says she can’t one or two more times so I tell her “just for a minute”. She comes down and tells me it was “an act of congress” to have gotten out of the room. I take her by the hand and go for a walk with her around the city, making out here and there. I tell her that we can finally kiss now that we’re outside of the bar haha. I was staying a half hour away and she had her friends in her hotel room…and my car was a half hour away too so that wasn’t an option. With the logistics being bad, I focused on getting her to really like me and feel comfortable with me. Since this was on a Friday night I figured I’d try to meet up with her Saturday during the day. We madeout a bit more then I cabbed it home. I # closed a girl that was in my friend’s neighborhood where I was staying right after I got out of the cab. It was a real quick close and they were totally ready for bed so despite some persistence it wasn’t going to really go anywhere. In retrospect, I think I could have probably pulled the original girl I was making out with if me and Aussie hadn’t come down so hard…but hey…I was an instructor on the bootcamp with Jeffy and the main guy I was helping out (Aussie) with constant tips/calibrations/winging had pulled the first 2 nights of bootcamp whereas he had never pulled before and only came onto the program at 6 lays. Fuck ya.

SATURDAY: I got lunch with an old friend who I was staying with and told him all about the game. He actually was the guy that first recommended “The Game” and “Mystery Method” to me a few years ago. He had read them for fun and never actually tried any of it out. I had been super skeptical when he told me about them as I did not think there could actually be a science to seducing women. So this was kind of coming full circle. I tell him that this shit is getting really easy for me and tell him I’ll show him how it’s done. I see a sexy little girl in a little outfit crossing the street about half a block away outside the window where we had just finished lunch. I leap to my feet and am off. I walk diagonal as to intercept her walking path. As I near closer I see that she has earbuds in. I stop her, feigning innocence and saying that me and my friend (who was by my side) are DJ’s from Chicago and are staying with frends in this neighborhood. I asked what was fun to do around the neighborhood. We start walking with the chick and she is pretty receptive so I start screening for logistics for later. I ask her if she’s a night owl. She says she is. I say, perfect..cuz me and my friend are dj’ing an event tonight and I’m going to be back in the neighborhood around 4 (after bootcamp hahaha) and am not going to want to go to sleep. She agrees to hang out with me later. Number close. Turns out she’s 18. I was doing a lot of teasing and role-play shit and had her laughing up a storm. I tell her we have to go because I have to get to the hotseat (that’s not the actual reason I gave haha). I go off to hotseat and get a bunch of new good insight from Tyler…blah blah blah won’t go into that here. So we get out to sarging this last night of bootcamp fairly late. We go out around 11:30 by the time all the hotseat shit is wrapped up. Plus they forgot to give a food break during hotseat so I’m pretty hungry at this point. Aussie is a personal trainer and he actually can’t even function or sarge if he hasn’t eaten. So we have to waste even more time to stop and get food on the way from a street vendor. The point of these stupid details is that we got out pretty late and Jeffy takes us to the same venue we went to on the first night of bootcamp (brass monkey in the meatpacking district). This place is fucking mobbed. Like wall to wall, can barely move, people bumping into you over and over from trying to move around in the crowd, etc. Fucking horrible environment for sarging. Then on top of it, Tyler and Brad’s joint bootcamp shows up with Tyler and Brad. Add in to the mix instructor assistant (or whatever the fuck he is) connor from DC and one of his friends. Jeffy sends me in on a three set. I grab the hottest one and then him and connor roll onto the other two. They blow out and I’m still going. I was getting shit-tested but I would just take it to the extreme. Some comment about young girls came up in the conversation and she was like, I bet you like them super young. So I was like, ya…preferably under 15. So the chick was like, “so you’re a pedophile?” and I was like, shhhh that’s a secret, but yes [next thread]. This style was working well because she couldn’t rattle me at all even though she kept trying. I # close and roll off because Jeffy is texting me to come downstairs. Downstairs is just as much of a nightmare…can’t really open anything…way too crowded. I see the girl I # closed (Natasha) downstairs and I re-engage. I have Aussie come in now to wing. Turns out Natasha’s 2 friends have boyfriends. I tell Natasha that I am only in town for the weekend and that I want to have a spontaneous adventure. She tells me she doesn’t do one night stands and I feign innocence. I keep being self-amusing with her and Jeffy, who she tells that he looks like an angry dwarf (which obviously didn’t go over well). Then came the moment of truth. Her friends wanted to leave. I tell her that she should stay and that we’ll hit a diner. I win over the friends. The friends tell her to stay. She stays. Now here’s where things get interesting. I isolate her with my back against the bar and get into some making out using the Eskimo kiss trick. She keeps telling me “we can’t have sex tonight” and I keep insisting that as a rule, I don’t fuck girls on a first date…and as a caveat I said that it wasn’t even the first date yet! I screen her by telling her that the #1 and #2 things I look for in a girl are intelligence and non-sluttiness. She loves this because apparently she meets lots of dumb guys and she thinks a lot of girls are slutty. I also give my token canned example story (which is actually a true story) about how I denied sex to this chick who became a pornstar on our first hangout (I did technically lie though and said this girl was in playboy…which she wasn’t…but she still to this day is the hottest girl I ever fucked….she has a tattoo down her side that says “out of your league”. I actually found out she has AIDS now. But I fucked her a few years ago, well before her pornstar days. I got her by throwing like 50 negs at her when I got her to meet up at a diner. Literally the entire conversation was throw and go negs along with themed “your life’s a mess” negs hahaaha. It actually worked. Anyways, I cement the frame that we are only going to get food and if we go hang at her house she can’t do anything other than kiss me. I make her pinky promise. I often do this kind of shit. Mystery calls it role reversal. YOU set the ground rules, YOU make them promise not to try and fuck you, YOU act like you want much more than sex, etc. All the moves the girl pulls on you you pull on her preemptively. And it’s also coming from a terrific frame that you are DEFINITELY hanging out and she has her little plausible deniability and blah blah blah. Another interesting thing to note about this pickup is I had to AMOG out about 6 different guys every time I turned my back on her. One of the guys that came in on her was brad. The first guy I rolled up on I wrapped my arms around her and just smiled at the guy and he panicked and fled. She was like, hey you’re not my bf all joking/flirty. I was like, yes I am, I love you/want to marry you/blah blah blah. Again, reraise/escalate rather than react. She seemed to be somewhat receptive to Brad but my approach there was just say, “yo I’m an instructor assistant for Jeffy, I’ve already madeout with this chick” and he was like no worries and rolled off. She said that Brad was very physically attractive but he seemed to be trying too hard. She said Tyler clearly only had one thing in mind. And she thought Jeffy was just angry/jaded. Spot on in all 3 cases. Although she told me that she could tell I wasn’t just after sex and she liked that. She also said it’s one of her pet peeves if anyone tries to manipulate her and she’ll shut anyone down instantly when they try. My congruence/calibration must be getting pretty stellar. Jeffy pulls me aside when I’m making out with her and scolds me for losing track of the students. I gave him shit back because he didn’t know where they were either. You could barely move in that fucking venue and it was super annoying. I had stuck with Aussie for a lot of the night then he had wandered off to use the bathroom and disappeared. I tell the girl that we should get out of there and as we’re leaving Jeffy is debriefing the 2 students outside. So they get to see me take her to the cab in all the glory and splendor. Aussie pulled 2 for 3 but the 3^rd night was stacked against him with limited time and super busy venue…but at least they got to see me pull for the 2^nd time that weekend and instill hope that they can start doing that shit all the time too. We take a cab like 70 blocks to her house (short NYC blocks lol)…the diner never even came up….we get into making out, fingering, jerking off, she goes down on me, I put a condom on, I bang her brains out. It didn’t come up ONCE about my “no sex rule” or her “no sex with a guy she just met” and “no one night stands” and blah blah blah. They all fucking say that shit all the time but none of it matters in the end. They just have to say that shit so they don’t feel slutty. I wake up in the morning and bang her again. Now she won’t stop texting me (which has turned into emailing me now that I’m in China). This girl holds a special place in my heart (lol…my heart)…since Jeffy sent me in, Brad tried to steal, she got to meet Jeffy, Tyler, Brad, and I pulled her in front of all of them despite lots of guys trying to steal, a jam-packed environment (she was my first and only set), and a whole bunch of objections. She also didn’t want to take my nut in the mouth but I got her to do it the night of and the morning after. She said she never gives morning head and has no idea how I got her to do it. She wants to come this sat/sun which will fuck up my Saturday night sarging but fuck it. I’ll hit the clubs hard Friday night and then try and day 2/day 3 loose ends from before my travels. My rotation is looking pretty healthy upon my return to the states despite having been gone for so long. I’ve been flirting with these girls via email and fucking them in the brief periods of time I’ve been back in philly.

Another thing to mention is I hit up the sexy 18 year old who I had daygame closed and she came over on Sunday before I left NYC. All she would do is makeout…I tried pushing past all her objections/barriers but no go. Who cares. Another thing I forgot to mention is on that Saturday during the day (before hotseat), I tried to arrange day 2’s with the girl I almost pulled Friday night (the one that got put to a decision) and with the southern chick. The one I almost pulled on Friday night wanted me to meet her at a beer garden with a bunch of her friends. Fuck that. I wanted to fuck that bitch not go shoot the shit. So I didn’t go on that day 2. Although I am going to try and get her to come to philly because she def has a real wild side…I could tell. As for the southern bitch, the meetup almost happened 3 times that day but her friends kept wanting her to stay with them and keep shopping and doing other dumb shit. This actually worked in my favor though. I was texting with southern bitch a whole bunch being real flirty before china and we’ve been emailing every day while in china. She plans to fly to philly for a weekend in November. Our plans include “keeping her warm” because she’s worried about the cold…comments surrounding this have included cuddling, Jacuzzi, and 69 (she said it was 69 last time she was up north) hahaha. I also told her we could watch football cuz she’s a big football fan…but there’s tons of sexual innuendo and flirting. I’m trying to figure out how the fuck she’s so on/invested when the set was only like 15 minutes. I think it has to do with the walk around the city/makeout creating the illusion that we had spent much more time together…then her really wanting to see me on that Saturday during the day but being unable to and regretful…then all the flirting over text and email. If she comes to visit…which it sounds like 90% then I’ll def close that. Short blonde hair..sexy southern accent..fuckin love it.

So that about wraps up my super detailed bootcamp report. Jeffy texted me on Sunday saying thanks for everything and blah blah. Then he texted me a whole bunch more all day which was pretty sweet. He told me something new he came up with for solidifying a girl onto a fuck buddy rotation. He also was sending pictures of himself gardening and shit lol. I definitely proved myself that weekend and he def sees me as a peer now and not some run of the mill chode or wannabe. The very next night after getting back from bootcamp I had dinner with Todd before the inner circle meeting. Todd is treating me different now too – like a peer. He is asking ME for advice, talking to me like a PUA on his level rather than some master, etc. Tyler has been treating me different too and has a big opportunity with me. It’s funny that the might Tyler Durden (Owen), Xaneus (Todd), and Jlaix (Jeffy) from the book, The Game that I read about just a few short years ago…who I viewed as rockstar legends…are now my fucking peers. And I have no doubt about the fact that I will surpass them. I have already in some ways. I’m sure of it. And I’m gunning to catch their lay counts. Here’s where they’re currently at according to their answers when I asked them 1v1 directly:

Todd: Low 100’s

Tyler: around 150

Jeffy: 188

I just hit 125 and 126 in Beijing this weekend, pulling bitches that don’t even speak English. I am going to read the Love Systems text guide to tighten my text game, I’m reading Bhagadva Gita and Power of Now for dealing with indifference and outcome independence, I’m writing field reports and analyzing sticking points, I’m continuing to discuss pickup with local PUA’s, on the forums, and with the instructors, I’m hitting the gym starting when I get back from China, etc. I have a lot of ways to improve and it’s going to be an amazing fucking journey.

Rock n Roll.

Running a bootcamp with Jeffy this weekend in NYC -- pulled on night 1...#123

So here's some interesting things I learned about Jeffy last night:
-He's at 188 lays after 10 years of pickup. (i'm not too far behind..i hit 123 last night)
-He gets a lot of extra success from internet game in which he employs the use of macros (i need to start doing this)
-He gets flakes about half the time with numbers (so don't take flaking so personally)
-He gets afraid to approach in the beginning of the night
-He thinks drinking with pickup is fine

We had a blast together and he said that he usually hates everyone but that he really really likes hanging out with me because he hates me even more than most people lol. he said the only people he likes are the people he hates the most hahaha. he said we're the same person. "J-MULV".."J-LAIX"..hahah. he can tell our personalities are real similar. anyways, awesome bonding/sarging. He was letting me act like the other instructor too which was awesome. we got 1 of our 2 guys laid and we're working on the 2nd tonight. i also pulled last night. this chick from dublin. that was my first genuine irish fuck. banged her twice cuz she had a condom and i had one. wish i had had more. 2nd fuck ended up with a titty fuck and nutting on her face. missed another work meeting cuz i went to bed at 10:30 am. ahh..priorities. off to din then bootcamp round 2.

My journey as a PUA -- where I started off, where I came from, and where I am today

I didn't even come across formal game AT ALL until 2009. i didn't even know it existed. a friend recommended the books "The Game" and "Mystery Method". Then, shortly after implementing the techniques from these books, I ended up with a girlfriend of 1.5 years. The jump you see happen started when I got out of this relationship in March 2011. I learn pretty fuckin quickly and am able to put into practice what I learn pretty quickly as well. My first night out using Mystery Method I got 4 makeouts and 7 numbers, 3 of which turned into fucks. I actually didn't even discover RSD until the end of June of this year when I took a bootcamp with Tyler and Todd. So I've been into the RSD shit for only 3 months. In that 3 months though my number has gone from 103 to 122. I will say that I think there are a bunch of flaws in Mystery Method and RSD is a way better and evolved method, but I still use some things from Mystery Method. It's important to realize that if YOU THINK A SET OF STRATEGIES/TACTICS IS WORKING, that will usually be self-fulfilling and they WILL WORK. This is due to a lot of things happening automatically -- high core confidence, entitlement, what jeffy calls "punching through the wall" (aka not even seeing failure as an option and being so sure of shit working), etc. Just thinking that you have the keys to success will give you success a lot of times. Mindset is very important. This principle kind of snowballs too as you achieve more and more success because you start getting EMPIRICAL RESULTS to point to. It's not just, hey I'M THE FUCKING SHIT any more. It's, wow, I fuck tons of hot bitches, get crazy pulls, and do other insane stuff in field....oh and btw, I'M ALSO THE SHIT. Fake it til you make it. Never doubt yourself. The awesome player you envision yourself to be will manifest itself full force in due time.

So, I was at 61 lays before I even found out anything about formal game. But you can see how much my progress shot up once I started implementing formal game. Lots of people have tried to say that I am a natural since I was at a decent amount of lays before I discovered "game". Well, let me paint the picture of how life was like for me prior to junior year of college. Take senior year of high school: I took the bus to school, was taking 7 AP classes in which I would play wireless chess in class (before wireless technology had even officially come out lol), I would sit with 3 super smart guys at lunch and we would debate philosophy and science, i would sneak out of the lunchroom to go to the library to daytrade stocks, I played the violin, I was in math league, I had never kissed a girl, I planned on waiting until marriage to have sex, ......need I continue? When i finally madeout with my first girl in Freshman year of college I literally shook violently with nervousness. When i lost my virginity at the end of freshman year of college, I busted in about 3 seconds lol. I grew up in a very verbally absusive household and was pretty depressed, nervous, shy, and awkward in high school. Things got a little better in college as I became a lot more outgoing. I started drinking junior year of college (2003) after I switched from a technology school to a liberal arts school. I started going out Fridays and Saturdays for the purpose of drinking/partying/hanging out with friends. I will admit that alcohol changed a lot for me. Coming from a background of serious general anxiety/social anxiety, a few beers opened a new world for me. I got into the habit very quickly of going up to the cute girls at every party and shooting the shit. I learned after a bunch of what I now know are called "approaches", I realized that the countent of what I would first say (my "opener") was meaningless. I would just be friendly, outgoing, and fun and started regularly making out with chicks. Aol instant messenger (AIM) was popular at this time so I would get these bitches screen names and I would typically have like 6-7 windows open at night before going out (or during the day) where I'd be making sexual innuendos and doing lots of flirting (usually using wink faces or tongue faces). I started going out Thursdays, then after a while I added in Wednesdays. Then I would find out about parties going on on Mondays and Tuesdays. By senior year I was going out on Sundays too (so 7 days a week). I was going out for the major reason of partying with friends. being in a drinking environment with music, meeting new people, and the highs of hooking sets, getting IOIs, getting makeouts, etc. were all what fueled me. I quickly became the type of guy that always wanted to go out and always wanted to hit multiple events/parties/bars/etc. I always wanted to go out and stay out as long as possible as long as something fun was going on. I got a player image almost right away because I'd usually clean up at every party or bar. One of my majors in college was Philosophy so one of my main tactics was to be very Machiavellian. I would often use improv lying in real-time to fit the situation and give myself shit to talk about or to serve some purpose. I used to open a lot with "you look familiar..." which I now think is pretty corny but it worked pretty well on college girls. Here is a typical sequence I would use:

me: hey, you look familiar..
HB: from where?
me: we're in that one class together, ummm
HB: which one??
me: it's real early...ummm
HB: class x!?
me: yaaa, i hate that class. i usually don't go because i don't really like the professor
HB: (agrees or disagrees)
me: ya that's true hahahaha, so [stack to some improv shit about the party or her appearance, and so forth]

i started to get what i know is called "self-amusing" by having little challenges with friends. i would bet them money that i could make out with any girl they chose. i would almost always win and this caused me to open difficult sets and take on a player persona in my mind even further. i went through a period of being too sloppy with my drinking where i'd black out parts of the night (and therefore forget all my # closes) or get into the mode of saying dumb shit due to drunkenness. anyways, without getting into too many tangental details, prior to reading the game and mystery method in 2009, here were my main strategies (that got me 61 lays, almost all from cold approach):
1. Be a fearless approacher
2. Think you're the shit. Better yet, KNOW you're the shit. Point to results you achieve to remind yourself of this fact.
3. Be in set a lot. If one stales or blows out, immediately move on to the next
4. The content of the opener (and of the conversation for the most part) is meaningless. Say whatever the fuck you want.
5. Related to 4, while saying whatever the fuck you want -- display charisma, animted body language, expressiveness
6. Feeling entitled

These were all things I just developed from going out and interacting with chicks. You can see what's working and what isn't just from time in the field. Obviously, discovering formal game strategies and tactics helped strengthen a lot of things, add a lot of things, and remove negative habits.

However, to be honest, I think bad habits can really persist for long periods of time without even realizing it. That's why studying formal game is really important. There are subtle things that fuck up your sets or increase your flake percentage or make you needy/try-hard. That's why it's so important to be brutally honest about your sticking points, weak areas, and to constantly be critical of yourself. Don't compare yourself to others though -- just try to become better and better. Make your best set of this week be your average set 6 months from now. Make your craziest adventure this year be something that happens more frequently next year.

All this being said, I'm only 3 months into learning RSD. I'm fitting it into my existing framework and it's fixing a lot of things that I'm doing wrong. I've had to unwire some bad habits and I'm in the process of re-wiring better ones.

The main revelations that RSD gave me (that I've been implementing full force) are the following:
1. Be persistent. This includes re-engaging. I used to roll off when interrupts would happen, when I'd be given shit tests, when the set wasn't, or when AMOGs would come in. Now I see all these things as making the set even more fun and interesting and bust through all that shit.
2. Don't seek reaction. I used to DHV a bunch because of my mystery method background. I would do this from a non-bragging/non-try hard frame so I would just mention the DHV stuff in stories indirectly without them being the focus of stories. However, I still had the mindset that posessions, skills, etc would "impress" the girl and therefore get her to like me more. I try not to DHV much any more. Also, if there is anything I'm going to say where I want the girls to react in some sort of way, I stop myself from doing it. It's better to be SELF-AMUSING and just adding positive emotions to the vibe rather than trying to get them to react a certain way.
3. ESCALATE. I used to look at the phone number as an end goal. I would try and "play it safe" and play "not to lose". The rationale was that I'd be able to keep her in a good spot without escalating and THEN I'D GET HER (YAAA!) when the day 2 came. Wrong wrong wrong. Their emotions and buying temperature is up the night you meet them. A phone number time bridge doesn't even put you where you left off because you are both out of your emotional state so it's like you're starting a bunch of steps back from where you left off. Push for the makeout, push for the move within the venue, push for the venue change, try for the pull home.
4. Fight objections. This ties into being persistent...but it's also an important principle on its own. The girls will give you reasons why they can't give you their phone number, why they can't kiss you, why they can't go home with you, why they can't leave their friends, etc. Train yourself at answering these objections and constantly reframing to the frame that you want. This also entails crushing the frame that they set forth.
5. Build momentum to get into state. The ideas of momentum and state were brand new to me as of end of June of this year. I actually want to start going out at 8 so I can build momentum and get into state by 10 pm and then tear shit to shreds til 2 and then afterclub it til 3:30.
6. Make girls love you or hate you, not tolerate you. This ties into #3 of playing it safe and playing not to lose but it's also important on its own. I would kind of walk the line of trying to keep them around so I wouldn't push too hard sometimes when I needed to for fear of losing them. However, ironically, not pushing hard when you need to is going to leave a lot of girls on the fence. A lost girl isn't much different than one on the fence...neither one is fucking you.
7. Sometimes you have to burn it to the ground. This ties into 6 somewhat. I never wanted to go all out and burn shit but now when the situation warrants it, I do it. Cuz why the fuck not.
8. It's ok to go direct. Mystery method taught me to indirectly open a group and ignore the target and then all the sudden -- OH LOOK I WANT THE TARGET! I almost always open the target directly now. It's still important to win over the group...but I don't like the whole indirect approach shit that much any more. I think you can get much more solid sets by going direct.
9. Don't put pussy on a pedastal. Mystery method taught me that I started off at a big value disadvantage and that I needed to DHV to the girl to raise my value while simultaneously negging the girl to lower hers. This would cause a relative value shift and at some point my value would surpass hers. Now i believe in core confidence and see myself on her level (or usually higher than her level lol). I have a ton of shit going for me and can get hotties all day so why would one hot body intimidate me. With this mindset, it's much easier to approach the top stunners and not subcommunicate that you are lower value. It's all in your fuckin head. If you want to give them some pseudo-worth, it's just going to fuck you up.
10. LEAD. Put your hand out to the girl. Put her arms around the back of your head. Take her spots in the venue. Call the shots. If a friend interrupt comes in, have her introduce you. If she disrespects you, call her on it. Direct the interaction.

I'm sure there's others but those are some of the main ones. As should be apparent now, formal game training ACCELERATES your progress but there's no substitute for lots of time in the field. I went form being a depressed super nerd in an abusive home to having full abundance. Just make your mind up that you're going to be a fucking beast and then go and be a fucking beast. It's that simple. Try to fix areas you can but also don't expect things to happen overnight. The hotness of the girls has gone up and up. My general success and lays and crazy adventures have gone up and up. It gradually builds.

Best advice I can get to anyone no matter what your level -- go out a lot, never give a fuck, be critical of what you're doing wrong, and be patient. Now that I've given my life story as a PUA, i'm off to sarge.

Fuck closed #121 and #122 - club pull and hired gun with BF

so i'm back in Raleigh, NC blogging at 3 am. just got in earlier tonight. i was back in philly this past weekend. here are the highlights:
-smashed a fuck buddy i hadn't seen a while on friday night
-smashed a regular fuck buddy saturday afternoon then late night saturday
-fucked #121 from a club pull on saturday night. then jake and zach each fucked her after i did lol. this was my first train. glad i was at the front of the train hahaha.
-fucked #122 who i've been working on for a month. 18 year old hired gun with a bf. got resistance on the kiss. wash rinse repeat and building of compliance momentum. now the chick says shes in love with me but also loves her bf? she wants to see me again this weekend. shes making up all these excuses to him for why she texts me and why she came to see me. i'm convinced that virtually any girl can be convinced to cheat if someone's game is strong enough. this particular lay took about a month worth of super advanced game tactics and was probably my most advanced and complicated pickup ever. this chick was a 9.5 too. i'll list some of the things i did to get her:

-sacrificed a 7.5/8 fuck buddy as a pawn to open this 9.5
-created the illusion of a girlfriend to serve as a false disqualifier and to hide behind as a shield as i made statements of sexual intent. also used this false girlfriend for preselection and jealousy (claimed she was a full-time model and sent a picture of a 10 to the 9.5) and to block out the bf (i said me and my gf were fighting so when we hung out i didn't want her to bring the bf cuz i'd be a 3rd wheel. she had tried to include him on a bunch of other planned hangouts.) I also demonstrated value and social proof through her finding out about my dj'ing, nuclear missile defense shit, having dated playmates and a pornstar (before the girl became a pornstar haha), her seeing my house and car, etc. She flaked out twice on dates and i had to lay the smackdown on her for that. i used conspiracy and role-play once we finally hung out today and i had to barrel through LMR and explain to her that i was cheating too (on my fake gf lol) and that we had such a special connection. there's lots more that went into this but glad it finally went down. it was a blast and she has a great ass.

i also made this interesting post on RSD Nation that utilizes personal empirical data called
Fuck Closes are Exponential Over Time

very curious to see where i'll be at in 6 months from now or a year from now.

raleigh is fucking with my game a little but i was able to go out with simon last thursday night 1 hour from raleigh and closed 8 girls that night. they all live far away so dont know if anything will come of those this week but i'll burn them all to the ground.

game is getting more and more fun. i can't get enough of it.